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Healing the Heart.

By Marisa Rivera.

How have you been feeling lately?

Are you happy, sad, angry, or fearful? Are you filled with grief, hatred and jealousy, or filled with love and gratitude? We all have the option to pursue love and happiness, but many of us go unconsciously through out life with certain patterns that impede us from being happy.

Marisa Rivera is president of Empowerment Works, a motivational speaker, executive coach and leadership and empowerment consultant.

As an eternal optimist, I believe that our thoughts become our reality. It is important that we consciously be aware of our feelings in order to change them. I choose everyday, happiness and gratitude.

I am not a doctor, but age and experience have given me the wisdom and a different outlook on life. During dark times such as death, sickness and divorce, I have searched for ways to heal the heart throughout my life and ways to change disruptive behavior patterns.

Below are a few techniques that have helped me:

Living in the now.

Acknowledge your feelings and reflect on where they are coming from. Are your feelings coming from a past heartbreak? Childhood memories or recent experiences? Be conscious. You can only break the patterns by acknowledging them and being fully aware of what you are doing and be willing to change. When we break away from negative thoughts or patterns, we can live a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life.

Reflections and Meditations.

Take time to reflect on your life, on your experiences, and on your feelings. In order to heal the heart, we must reflect on the past and find out what events in our lives have caused pain, resentment, anger, fear etc. Cry if you need to cry, scream if you need to scream, sweat if you need to sweat. Then think about the positive things, events or circumstances that were good about that past. For example, the loss of my parents was very painful, but I am grateful that I had them through out my childhood and I still live by their example. Also, although my divorce after 30 years of marriage was painful, I am grateful for the good times and the three beautiful children that came out of that life experience. I have learned to celebrate that it happened, not that it’s over. Reflect on the positive things, even during times of struggle, and be grateful.

Journaling & Forgiveness.

Writing about your feelings and experiences is very therapeutic. Find a quiet space, and write. Journaling helps you get things off your chest without being very intrusive. You can also write a letter to yourself, or your loved one, asking for forgiveness. Forgiveness is the best gift you can give yourself.

Sing, Dance, Create.

Healing with music and dance is a great technique. Listen to some of your favorite, feel-good tunes and dance while cooking, cleaning, etc. Listening to music can trigger the release of endorphins, lifting your spirits and combating stress and negative thoughts. If you are an artist, maybe you sew, paint, draw, or play an instrument. Find time each week to let those creative juices flow.


Practice positive affirmations to increase positive energy and bring positive thoughts into your life. Write them now, repeat them.

Open your Heart and Be Happy.

I have learned that life is precious and fragile, it could be gone in an instant. Opening your heart to love, forgiveness and compassion is the key to happiness.
Inside of us, we have all the gifts and wisdom to be happy.
Go pursue your happiness!

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